Category: Singles Spit Swap
I figured I'd give this a try just for the fun of it and see what happens. Since I'm posting here I'm obviously single and looking. So here's what I'm looking for.
I'm looking for a nice, single girl, blind or sighted, I don't care. I have no requirements as far as physical appearance, although if you have long hair and you're taller than me (I'm about 5'6 or so), those are bonuses. I also don't care about race, in fact I would have no objetions to dating a girl from a different ethnic background. Preferably someone between nineteen and 34 or so, and within the US. It's already likely we'll be getting to know each other long distance at least right at first, so that's why I say within the US. Beyond that I'm not picky as long as we can enjoy our common interests and respect each other's differences.
Oy, I always think it takes a lot of courage to post on these things, especially if you're looking! Lmao, even if I was looking for someone, I'd be too shy! An I always think it's best not to look for love, but to just let it happen! if you meet someone and they're amazing, well, good for you! Everything will happen on it's own time! whatever's supposed to happen will happen!
Kia
And in the meantime I still gotta get a job...and I may have to move just for that.
LOL, I remember posting one of these when I first joined the site.
Anyway, good luck.
Thankyou. Thankyouverymuch.
I'm sure you'll find a large loving woman that will break several of your ribs if she takes top.
Well I do tend to be attracted to bigger girls, so that wouldn't be an issue.
uh wow.
Braking ribs wouldn't be an issue. Hahahaha. alright.
aww well good luck, everyone finds someone.
my life sucks, so its prob gonna suck more after this but fuck it, karma will fuck ya up if ya do wrong.
I am jenni, live in missouri, 23 totally blind stand 4'11 weigh 225 pounds, have bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder so shit is more than most would see it with me esp negative. ah well. its life. I like music, reading, writing, stuff in the medical field computers I got twitter, facebook, msn aim yahoo and use irc. I see myself as pretty outgoing in most things shy in others. i am more a follower than a leader, but refuse to be controled by anyone. you hit me, i am beating the fuck out of you then having your sorry ass arrested. not going down the minupulated abused road again fuck that shit. ok, i said my peace
Well Jenni it sounds like we agree. I've had too many girls take advantage of me to be very trusting anymore.
hmm, well, guess I'm out, as I'm not a big girl. lol
I'm not that picky LOL. I just meant I've nothing against big girls.
Well that's great, Brian, but what do you have to give back? what are your interests? See my board on ... well you can't miss it. There's a girl named Jenny who's looking. Why don't you give her a try. All the best.
Lucy
Well for what it's worth my interests include animals (especially cats), writing, reading, listening to and playing music, camping, boating, bowling, Karaoke...well I could go on for a while really. And of course let's not forget laughing. So a girl could get on my good side very easily if she can make me laugh without having to resort to being too dirty or crude. That's one thing that drew me to my fiance. Then again I really don't know what's going on with her these days. She might not even be my fiance anymore for all I know. All I know is if she is going to let me go and doesn't have the courage to tell me and tell me why then she isn't someone deserving of my respect. But seeing as I have no proof as yet I'll leave it at that for now. I could, after all, be totally wrong.
wow brian,
Didn't you say you were expecting twins?
I did, but there's been a rather disturbing development in the situation. I haven't heard from Angelina in almost seven days and that's not usually like her. When you factor in an abusive x husband who's made it his life's mission to make her life a living hell and possibly end it, the implications of this silence are more than a little ominous. Unfortunately I don't have any proof and I don't know what the hell's going on if anything. The suspense is driving me crazy.
seven days really isn't all that long
7 days and your looking, and have twins coming that are yours? Talk about moving on! Or am I missing somthing?
It is long when you're talking about somebody who's usually much more in contact than that. And when that someone has an abusive x who might just go to ANY lengths to see that she doesn't find happiness. But I finally did hear from her yesterday, although it wasn't until this morning that I actually got the messages. And no, I haven't actually been looking LOL. In fact if he had killed her as he's threatened it might have been quite a while before I went looking for love again. As it is I'm going to reserve judgment until I see her face to face again.
I'm not judging you at all. What I am trying to understand is 1. If she is having your twins wouldn't you go looking to see if she's okay after say 2 days without contact? 2. If her Exe is an issue wouldn't that make you worry if she didn't contact you, but normally does, so you go check on her? 3. You have posted here, so you are technical looking right? I mean you say you are not, but here is your post? Hook me up with the story. I'm just interested, but never judgmental. Smile. Maybe you have reasons for why 7 days caused you to start searching right instead of checking on her.
When I initially posted this topic I was, in fact, single. Recently I've just been replying to some older posts. I haven't actually been looking. But to answer your questions as best I can, this situation is more than a little complicated. Angelina did move out of her x husband's house, but unfortunately her roommate won't allow me to come visit Angelina until she herself, that being the roommate, has the chance to meet me. It's been extremely frustrating. In fact Angelina didn't even give me the address yet. On the one hand I can sort of understand Shelly's logic. She and Angel are as close as sisters apparently, and after all Angel's been through she wants to protect her. But it's still more than a little paranoid I think. And at times like this when Angel needs me I can't even be there for her the way I should. And, unless she's been lying to me she doesn't even have a cell phone at the moment. But I do think I'm going to write to her on Myspace and tell her that if she wants this to work out something has got to change.
And the twins? I mean this girl/woman is with child? Seems to me looking from the outside and not having all the facts the relationship is not right someplace. A roommate is a roommate not a care taker. She, if she is interested in you should make the call, or the bus runs both ways too? You don't live on the moon right? Smile. Come see me. Tell me about the twins, and I hope all gets better for you.
That's my point exactly. In fact as much as it pained me I decided to end the relationship this morning for those and a number of other reasons, though I hope it won't be a permmanent thing. But either she's been lying to me or, on the other side of the coin, she's just so scared of letting me near her while her x is lurking in the picture. She's told me herself that he'd come after me if he got the chance (although I'd make sure he didn't walk away from the meeting unscathed whatever he did to me), and it was that, I think, even more than the rest of it that made me decide what I did. And let's face it people, there were some glaring inconsistancies with her story, things about how the cops were his friends and so he always wormed his way out of any trouble. I can understand the part about violating restraining orders since men have done that before, but I've never heard of one repeatedly violating them and NEVER being taken to task for it. I'm not saying it's impossible but... And even if there were buses in Twin Falls, which there aren't, Angel wouldn't take them alone precisely because of him. Hell, I don't even know if she would if I were with her. So I finally wrote to her (keep in mind this has been my ONLY means of talking with her for some weeks now), and told her that I couldn't go on like this. I told her if she truly wants us to work she needs to stop making excuses and well and truly throw off her yoke. I realize it's hard for an abused woman to escape from a situation like that, especially when she's been in that boat for fiftee years or more, but there are options available for getting help with that, avenues that I'm beginning to suspect Angel's just stubbornly refused to use, although she's claimed they refused to help her. So I told her that if I'm who she truly wants, well and truly mind, that she'll bite the bullet and actually do what needs done. And I told her that if the day ever comes that she's free of him, well and truly free, that I'd consider giving her another chance, but not until then. And she'll have to come to me. I'm not even going to contact her. I've taken the first step far too often in this relationship.
Well I don't know the facts, but from your side of things than I'd say I understand. I believe being abused is not the issue, but abuse of your feelings. I hope the twins don't exist, and that she's lying about that as well, but be carful whom you allow yourself to be with unprotected. You might end up with a child by someone you dislike, and that is tragic. Peace and good luck.
That's the thing. At least one of us WAS protected that night. I was, although I'm no longer sure about her. But she must not have taken it all that seriously since she didn't even respond when I told her my decision to end things. And even if she really was, at least in her mind, distancing herself to protect me from her x husband, the stress she was bringing down on herself couldn't have been good for the kids let alone herself. But I guess it's now going to be her problem. Because even if she came back a few months later to tell me she'd finally dealt with her x I don't know if I'd be able to believe her. And it's her own fault for lying to me that first time about the restraining order.
So this x-husband that is abusive is actually existing?
That much at least I believe. We have a mutual friend whose word I would trust more than hers. And I've heard some of their phone conversations since he didn't seem to believe in keeping his voice down. And let's just say they weren't the words of a loving husband. And no I don't think that was staged. I do believe she was abused and that perhaps she does want to be free of him, but the real question is whether she wants it badly enough. If she did I think she'd find a way, even if it meant asking for shall we say, more professional help such as a victims' advocate group. But she claimed they refused to help her, which personally I think is a load of crap. I've never heard of a victims' advocate group refusing help to an abused woman. I think she's just never bothered to ask them.
And I haven't gotten a straight answer about these twins? I mean does she have babies now, or is she saying she's expecting? Smile.
Oh no, she says she's pregnant. The problem is I'm realizing there's a very good possibility they aren't mine. For one thing she found out she was expecting twins three days after finding out she was pregnant. THe only way that could actually happen is if she was farther along than she thought. You can't actually confirm pregnancy until at least five or six weeks along, and at least another month or two before you can find out if you're carrying twins. The time frame just isn't right here. Personally I'm beginning to suspect her so-called best friend's claims were true, and that he did have sex with her while she was too drunk to remember it. And supposedly this happened before we even met, which would certainly put the timing right for them to be his.
aww I feel so bad, I'm so sorry I hope things work out for the best
Gotsha. You are a smart man. Smile. Let her go. There are better, much better.
Peace.
This I know. I'm going to leave her alone and so far she seems to be following a similar plan.